Tuesday, 10 February 2015


ISBN-13: 978-0-19-977792-1
Writer: Eric Anderson
Title: The Monogamy Gap
Subtitle: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating
Language: English
Place of Publication: New York, NY
Publisher: Oxford University Press, Inc.
Year of Publication: 2012
Format: 160x242mm
Pages: xii+231 printed on acid-free paper
Cover photograph: istockphoto
Binding: hardback in colour dust jacket designed by Lisa Force
Original Price: N/A
Entry Date: 2015004
Entry Date: 9th February 2015


Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to.

Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology. Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. He suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfill a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation.

The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of couples, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urgesm the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightenning, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

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