Friday, 8 May 2015


ISBN-10: 0-8402-1307-7
Writers: Jay Ziskin and Mae Ziskin
Title: The Extra-Marital Sex Contract
Printing: Second Printing
Language: English
Place of Publication: Los Angeles, CA
Publisher: Nash Publishing Corporation
Year of Publication: 1973
Format: 142x222mm
Pages: xiv+257; bibliography, 255
Illustrations: 1 single colour picture of the writers on back flap by Willard
Binding: light blue boards in duotone dust jacket designed by Ron Rubenstein
Weight: 464gr.
Original Price: N/A (clipped)
Entry No: 2015017
Entry Date: 8th May 2015


Is marriage become obsolete?  The authors, who describe their own marriage as “durable, loving and exciting,” are strong believers in the institution of marriage, but they also believe that marriage as it is today will become obsolete unless an alternative is found to sexual exclusivity. This is the first book addressed to an evaluation of the possibilities for reducing one of the negatives of marriage – the problem of obtaining sufficient sexual satisfaction in marriage while sustaining and even enhancing the relationship itself.

Even in the happiest marriages, say the Ziskins, there eventually comes a time when the romance and “spice” dwindle, when a couple falls into a “rut.” Sex is the area in which dissatisfaction and frustration are most likely to be felt – often resulting in unnecessary conflicts and feelings of guilt – and a basically good marriage may end in divorce.

Such a marriage can be saved! It can continue to grow with new vitality when the couple agrees to enter into an extramarital  sex contract It can and has been done; and the authors present  remarkably candid interviews, with couples who have successfully entered into agreements of this nature, as proof. Of the 124 couples they interviewed, an overwhelming majority have found that their marriages are not only more open and happier, but their sex life with one another has been enhanced.

The Ziskins go on to describe what they call the various “sex modes in new fidelity” – swinging, group sex, independent sex, partial living apart, and the durable affair – and they tell the pros and cons of each. They examine the moral, legal, and religious aspects involved, and provide answers for every other question that will be asked about the extramarital sex contract – how to  initiate a discussion of the idea, how to work out the timing and establish “limits” once an agreement is made;  what to do about children; how to handle friends, relatives, and neighbors; and , for those who feel the need, how to put the contract in writing!

Open challenges our notions of wath traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves that open marriage is a viable option - even one that suits some couples better than conventional marriage.

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